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The longer we wait, the harder it is .... learn to

The longer we wait, the harder it is .... learn to express yourself gently and authentically by learning 'Heart- Centred Communication'.

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Tara🪷

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⬆️ Emotional intelligence in action! Hope you

⬆️ Emotional intelligence in action!

Hope you are well
Tara🌺

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Partners need to work on their own emotional intel

Partners need to work on their own emotional intelligence so that they can manage their emotions and not react angrily or in a harsh manner when they are upset.

Without mindfulness of emotions and the ability to manage them wisely, it is difficult to create an environment of emotional safety in which honest communication can take place.

🙋‍♀️Watch my free 75 min training video on Heart-Centred Communication to start building this skill set. Head to the link in my Bio to sign up to my free community to get instant access.

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Tara🪷

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Appreciation and gratitude are the channels throug

Appreciation and gratitude are the channels through which love flows. So do make sure you give more positive inputs than negative inputs to each other.

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Warmly
Tara🌹

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➡️Giving benefit of doubt is important, but it

➡️Giving benefit of doubt is important, but it is equally important to balance it with discernment.

➡️If the same patterns repeat despite words of assurance that they won't, be wise and review the situation from a bigger standpoint.

➡️If they are unwilling to change their behaviour, you still have a choice to change your own attitude, lower your expectations or as a last resort review whether you want to stay in the relationship at all.

Take care
Tara🌸

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We owe it to our little ones to protect them from

We owe it to our little ones to protect them from the tempers, disagreements, arguments and fights we will inevitably have with our partner.

I know first-hand the deep emotional wounds such experiences can leave on a child's psyche.

So be mindful whenever you end up getting upset with each other. #letchildrenbechildren

Warmly
Tara🌸

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It's possible your inlaws may not reciprocate ...

It's possible your inlaws may not reciprocate ... but that's on them. What you can do for the sake of your relationship is to put in the effort to make it work with them ... and if things don't work out, then you can let go knowing that you tried.

Take care
Tara🌼

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✅️Ongoing self-work to examine our personal re

✅️Ongoing self-work to examine our personal relationship behaviours and the impact they have on our partner and on the relationship is crucial for a satisfying and strong bond that stands the test of time.

✅️If you have been feeling unhappy in your relationship, I encourage you to first self-reflect on what you could do better instead of immediately giving in to the temptation to blame your partner for all the relationship issues you two may be experiencing.

✅️Show them that you are willing to take responsibility for working on your unhealthy patterns, and they may feel inspired and appreciative enough to do their self-work as well.

✅️Go through my 'Self-Work' highlight for tips on mindfully examining your patterns. And of course, for any 1:1 support for you as a couple or just you personally, follow the link in my Bio to know more about working with me.

Keep your loved ones close
Tara🌺

Note: This post is not meant for relationships that involve any form of abuse

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Guard against this happening.... it can happen in

Guard against this happening.... it can happen in all relationships over time.

While it is good to be able to feel secure in our love and care for each other, if we start taking each other for granted, it is likely we may stop making effort for the relationship and we can become so casual that it may border on negligence or disrespect in our behaviour towards our partner.🥀

Always remember what a privilege it is to have your partner in your life. Go through my 'Connect More' Instagram highlight for more on this.

Stay close
Tara🪻

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⬆️ Something to practice the next time your pa

⬆️ Something to practice the next time your partner starts sharing something about their office, family or friends.

Don't switch off ... instrad choose to listen closely and pay attention simply because you care about your partner.

Hope your day is going well.
Tara🌻

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Be careful of what you say to your partner when em

Be careful of what you say to your partner when emotions are running high. The damage done through carelessly uttered words can cause emotional wounds that can wreck a relationship over time — I see it regularly in my work with unhappy couples.

✅️Watch my free 75 min workshop video on Heart-Centred Communication to learn how to express your needs and feelings and make a clear request to your partner instead of saying harsh words that cause dosconnection. Sign-up for my free online community to watch the video. Follow the link in the Bio.

Take care
Tara🌻

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Do you have a daily ritual that helps you connect

Do you have a daily ritual that helps you connect and feel close? Let me know what it is in the comments section.

And if you don't yet, it's never too late to start one. It will help nurture your relationship.

Warmly
Tara🌻

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Train yourself to self-reflect before reacting whe

Train yourself to self-reflect before reacting when you feel annoyed or hurt with your partner.

It may not be their fault entirely. Look within first #communicationiskey

Go through my 'Self-Work' Highlight for more.

Warmly
Tara🌻

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⬆️This is a vital relationship skill and can p

⬆️This is a vital relationship skill and can prevent a lot of unnecessary conflict, stress, frustration and hurt feelings. #dontsweatthesmallstuff

Stay close to each other
Tara🌻

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Hold this beautiful intention for your relationshi

Hold this beautiful intention for your relationship in your heart everyday.

😇Silently say it to yourself when you wake up, after your prayers or meditation and just before sleeping at night to help you anchor more and more to your Heart and not be as influenced by the Ego.

🔖Save this and share it with your partner.

Warmly
Tara🌻

Though you may genuinely care and love your wife o

Though you may genuinely care and love your wife or girlfriend, they may not feel loved if you are unable to emotionally validate their feelings.

Men usually try to fix or distract their partner's when they are going through a strong negative emotion and this makes a woman feel alone and unheard.

I hope you find the tips I have shared in this video helpful for providing the needed emotional validation at such times.

Take care
Tara🌻

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