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7 Small Acts of Love To Keep The Spark Alive

➡️I keep emphasizing this in different ways be

➡️I keep emphasizing this in different ways because is it really important to understand that demanding, nagging or making your partner feel like something is wrong with them is not a wise approach ... it will not result in the changes you are hoping for.

➡️The best approach is one of kindness and acceptance. This is not to say that you shouldn't communicate your needs, but try to do it in a way that doesn't feel like a personal attack to your partner.

➡️Of course this advice is only meant for healthy relationships and does not speak to situations involving any form of abuse. Those kind of situations need to be handled differently.

Hope your week is going well.
Tara🌻

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#dontholdback once you are in a committed relation

#dontholdback once you are in a committed relationship. Unless you are willing to be emotionally vulnerable, you can't hope to build a deep connection.

Take care
Tara🌻

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➡️Only when we are ready to face this hard rel

➡️Only when we are ready to face this hard relationship truth will we even think about possible solutions for tackling the issue.

➡️The first thing you can do if this speaks to your situation is to learn how to express your feelings and needs to your partner in a non-violent manner.

➡️Observe carefully how they react when you talk to them in a non-blaming way. You may find that a large part of the problem has been the manner in which you were communicating your feelings and now they are more receptive to hearing you out.

➡️Watch my free 75 min coaching video on Heart-Centred Communication which will teach you how you could initiate this conversation. Sign-up for my free online community to get instant access to the video and the accompanying downloads.

🙋‍♀️I am accepting new clients at the moment. In case you would like to work with me individually or as a couple, follow the link in my Bio to my website where you can read more about working with me.

All the best
Tara🌻

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Don't allow emotional distance to creep into your

Don't allow emotional distance to creep into your relationship🥀. Put in the work to #bridgethegap.

If you hesitate to voice your needs and are unsure of how to express your emotions in a way that won't cause conflict, have a look at my detailed coaching video on Heart-Centred Communication. It is free to watch and is available to members of my online community.

Sign up for free at the link in my Bio.🎁

Hope you are well.
Tara🌻

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I believe the most important relationship we have

I believe the most important relationship we have is with ourselves. Unfortunately, we are not taught as children how to build this relationship with ourself. The focus is usually on gaining the approval of others and keeping them happy.

But once we are older, we need to realise that people-pleasing is not a healthy or viable way to live. We need to start making conscious choices about when to extend ourselves for others and when to prioritise self-care.

🔥We need to stop self-abandonment.

Self-trust can only begin when this happens. The first step of this journey is the intention of breaking out of our unhealthy self-abandoning behaviour.

🙋‍♀️You can read about my own journey in my memoir 'Why The Lotus Blooms: Choosing To Stand Tall'. Link in Bio.

Take care
Tara🌻

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➡️Don't let an issue snowball into a bigger on

➡️Don't let an issue snowball into a bigger one by allowing more misundertanding to creep in.

➡️Instead, lean in and sit down for an open, heart-to-heart discussion as soon as possible.

➡️The focus should be on trying to patiently listen to each other's perspective and reaching a common understanding on the best way forward.

🙋‍♀️My free coaching video on Heart-Centred Communication would be a useful resource for this purpose. Learn how to skilfully share your views honestly without blame, criticism or resentment. Follow the link in my Bio to join my free online community to get instant access to the 75 min video and the accompanying downloads.

Warmly
Tara🌻

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➡️Handling extended family members skilfully i

➡️Handling extended family members skilfully is imperative for a strong relationship between partners.

➡️And yet, this is one area that is a very common cause for relationship conflict.

➡️Though uncomfortable, it is super-important to develop the ability to communicate your needs, gently draw boundaries and navigate the egos of your families in a wise manner.

🙋‍♀️Make a start by trying to follow at least one of these tips I have shared in this post this week. And let me know in case you have any specific questions.

Hope you are well and in good spirits.
Tara🌻

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Dig in and do what needs to be done when your rela

Dig in and do what needs to be done when your relationship hits a rough patch. Don't be disheartened, all relationships face challenges and the strong ones, those that survive, are those that meet challenges together head on.

Wishing you warmth and love
Tara🌻

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💪Your true power lies in changing your response

💪Your true power lies in changing your response and attitude to your partner's behaviours. Trying to forcibly change them will more often than not, only result in frustration and burnout.

🔥Make a start by changing the way you communicate or raise a complaint with them . Watch my detailed 75 min FREE coaching video on Heart- Centred Communication. Follow the link in my Bio to join my free online community and get instant access to the video and downloadable tools. 🎁

Take care
Tara🌻

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➡️We all have emotional triggers that set off

➡️We all have emotional triggers that set off a reactive chain reaction in our nervous system in the blink of an eye. 💣

➡️These could be certain words, phrases, facial expressions, body language of the person we are speaking to or stimuli in the external environment that remind our subconscious mind of an event or an experience that we felt unsafe, unheard, rejected, betrayed or wounded in any sort of manner, especially in our childhood.

➡️Most people are not self-aware enough to know their emotional triggers and this leads to a lot of problems in relationships and life in general as we react unconsciously and unskillfully to the present experience based on our past negative experience.

➡️It is super-important therefore to understand your own patterns as well as your partner's so that you can both take responsibility for working on your own triggers and try to be sensitive to your partner's triggers.

➡️Unless and until you start doing this there can be frequent misunderstandings, blow-ups and conflicts leading to relationship problems.

🙋‍♀️Reach out to me for Individual Therapy or Couples Therapy if you'd like my support to help you work though your patterns and start healing. Follow the link in my Bio to know more about working with me.

Take care
Tara🌻

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⬆️Train yourself to keep a balanced, appreciat

⬆️Train yourself to keep a balanced, appreciative perspective of each other.

⬆️Unless you consciously make an effort to practice honest self-reflection, your mind and ego can take you on a harmful faultfinding spree.

Hope you are doing well in mind, body and spirit.
Tara🌻

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🔥The only thing worse than fighting too much is

🔥The only thing worse than fighting too much is not fighting at all and just keeping quiet to maintain a false sense of peace.

💔This will only lead to emotional disengagement and loneliness in the relationship.

🥀I see this pattern a lot with the couples I work with and the first thing I work on is supporting them in feeling emotionally safe to express their authentic emotions so that the relationship repair can begin.🤝

🙋‍♀️If you find it difficult to handle conflict and end up avoiding it, do watch my FREE coaching video on Heart-Centred Communication. You will feel encouraged and more confident approaching tough discussions using the tools I've shared. You can access it by becoming a member of my free online community. Follow the link in my Bio to sign up. 🎁

All the best!
Tara🌻

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➡️Rip off the bandaid 😣for the sake of your

➡️Rip off the bandaid 😣for the sake of your emotional and mental health.

➡️ Maintaining healthy boundaries with your ex is vital for building trust in your current relationship.

So don't procrastinate on this any longer.

Hope you are well and taking care of yourself.
Tara🌻

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➡️Offer your partner the best version of yours

➡️Offer your partner the best version of yourself by constantly improving your self-awareness and developing yourself and your relationship skills.

➡️Join me this Saturday morning for my FREE workshop if growing your emotional intelligence and relationship skills is something you are keen on.

➡️Follow the link in the Bio to join my free online community and attend the workshop.

Have a good day folks!
Tara🌻

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What expectations do you have from your partner th

What expectations do you have from your partner that may be unrealistic and time to let go of? #thoughtfortheday.

Join my FREE workshop on Oct 26th Sat, 9 am to 10 am IST to become more mindful as a partner and develop your relationship skills. Register by joining my free online community through the link in my Bio.

Note: This post does not apply to relationships which involve any form of abuse.

Have a good day.
Tara💫

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Don't miss the upcoming free online workshop with

Don't miss the upcoming free online workshop with me this Saturday, 26th Oct, 9 am to 10 am IST.

This is a free workshop in which you will learn and practice critical relationship skills with me in a way that will empower you to start applying what you learn right after the workshop.

The workshop will begin with a short guided Heart-Centred meditation which can be used for self-soothing in daily life.

The specific relationship skills that I will teach, and we will practice will be decided based on the needs of the participants present for the workshop that day. Nonetheless, what I can promise is that whatever is discussed and shared if applied properly, regularly and consistently will help you build a more fulfilling relationship.

We will end the session with a short Q&A.

🔥To register, join the online community — it's a free membership and you can leave any time. Once you have registered to the community, just go to the Events page and sign-up for the workshop.

LINK IN BIO.

Hope to see you there. Do invite any of your friends who might be interested.

Warmly
Tara

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